Trust: Can it be Resurrected?
To trust someone is to essentially surrender to them. Sounds melodramatic I know, but it's not untrue. When you decide to trust someone unwaveringly, to put all your faith in them, what you're also doing is giving them the power to do limitless damage. But then, I guess that's the point. You trust that they wont. You can't imagine them ever doing anything to hurt you, or make you feel bad in any way, intentionally or otherwise. That's why, when that trust is broken, it comes like a punch to the gut, out of nowhere and leaves you winded, confused and ultimately as broken as the trust itself.
Now, I believe (or at least I try to) that no matter how big something is, it can eventually be gotten over. But the question is, can the trust ever be re-built? It's not easy to forgive someone, but eventually if you want to, then it can be done, but is it the same for trust? You can try, (I mean everything's worth a try right?) but is trust really something you should have to try and achieve? Shouldn't it be something that occurs naturally? When you ask yourself 'Can I trust this person?', your gut reaction will tell you the answer. But then, if that person does something to prove that you can't trust them, then that's it. You cant! Is it really that simple? Is trust something that you either have for someone, or you dont, or is it something that ebbs and flows depending on the circumstances?
I don't really want to be cheesy and say that trust is a gift, but I guess these well-worn words are true. It's something that you give to someone at great expense to yourself, and it's a prime example of a gift that feels just as good to give as it does to recieve. However, to continue this analogy, if you give someone this gift, knowing that it's an expensive gift to give, only to have it smashed and broken, are you really about to run out and buy another one? Trust doesn't come with a reciept. You can't just go back and have it replaced. But then the question is, is it worth saving up to get another one, when the same could happen again?
I guess it all comes down to how much you like taking risks. The easy option would be to jump head-first straight back in and just hope for the best. But then there's always going to be something that sets you off thinking, making you suspicious, and living like that could make a person crazy. On the other hand, why throw a good thing away over something that in years to come will be years ago? It's a decision you have to make I guess, and it's one best made taking all the evidence into account. If trust is something that you either can do or you can't, then it should be an easy decision, but then things that are supposed to be easy never are. There's no guide-book, there is no concrete answer. You just have to ask yourself, 'Is the evidence strong enough to warrant re-opening the case?' or, when it comes to trust, is it innocent until proven guilty?
Now, I believe (or at least I try to) that no matter how big something is, it can eventually be gotten over. But the question is, can the trust ever be re-built? It's not easy to forgive someone, but eventually if you want to, then it can be done, but is it the same for trust? You can try, (I mean everything's worth a try right?) but is trust really something you should have to try and achieve? Shouldn't it be something that occurs naturally? When you ask yourself 'Can I trust this person?', your gut reaction will tell you the answer. But then, if that person does something to prove that you can't trust them, then that's it. You cant! Is it really that simple? Is trust something that you either have for someone, or you dont, or is it something that ebbs and flows depending on the circumstances?
I don't really want to be cheesy and say that trust is a gift, but I guess these well-worn words are true. It's something that you give to someone at great expense to yourself, and it's a prime example of a gift that feels just as good to give as it does to recieve. However, to continue this analogy, if you give someone this gift, knowing that it's an expensive gift to give, only to have it smashed and broken, are you really about to run out and buy another one? Trust doesn't come with a reciept. You can't just go back and have it replaced. But then the question is, is it worth saving up to get another one, when the same could happen again?
I guess it all comes down to how much you like taking risks. The easy option would be to jump head-first straight back in and just hope for the best. But then there's always going to be something that sets you off thinking, making you suspicious, and living like that could make a person crazy. On the other hand, why throw a good thing away over something that in years to come will be years ago? It's a decision you have to make I guess, and it's one best made taking all the evidence into account. If trust is something that you either can do or you can't, then it should be an easy decision, but then things that are supposed to be easy never are. There's no guide-book, there is no concrete answer. You just have to ask yourself, 'Is the evidence strong enough to warrant re-opening the case?' or, when it comes to trust, is it innocent until proven guilty?
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